Tags: healing, happiness, Guidance, life skills, positive thinking, innermost feelings, decisions
The villa looked lovely: with an inviting pool and the Mediterranean Sea just a step or two away. We booked it. That was months ago. This week, a member of the family became ill. We were due to leave tomorrow. And this morning, sadly, we cancelled the holiday.
Health comes first, always. But even so there is a feeling of disappointment, a heavy sadness. It would have been so nice, such a treat…
Disappointment is truly a negative feeling. But I have learnt how to look into the heart of any unwanted emotion and discover what messages are there. So I started wondering if this sad feeling serves any purpose. And this is what I found.
The original meaning of ‘disappoint’ means ‘to remove from office’. And even today, to disappoint always involves the removal of a particular role. In my case, I was all set to be a holiday maker in the South of France. When that role was taken away from me, what was I left with? Am I now playing the role of ‘the person who was going to go on holiday but now isn’t'? That sounds pretty thankless to me. There must be better roles to step into.
Or, is it possible that the real gift of disappointment is to remove us from role-playing? The truth is, I am not a holiday-maker – that’s not really who I am. I am not a partner, mother, healer or teacher either, though I go by all those labels. They are just roles that I have chosen to play. Every one of those roles will be taken away from me one day. Therefore I face inevitable disappointment. And so do you, because your roles are as impermanent as mine.
The only way out of this sadness trap is to allow our view of the world to shimmer and change. I do this by taking a few deep breaths, and allowing ‘what is’ to come in. And then I begin to see that the role itself has only ever been a suit of clothes that I have put on for a while. The suit of clothes is not me. But if I don’t realise that, then I might end up wearing rather a lot of outfits, all at the same time, and that would be uncomfortable, and impractical. I might even forget who I am, beneath it all.
Disappointment is to the mind what hunger is to the body: a time of shedding, of letting go. It’s a time of healing, which means becoming whole. We release our identification with the roles we play. It’s even possible to experience disappointment as a good feeling, akin to becoming lean and young again.
‘Holiday’ originally meant ‘holy day’. It was a sacred time. It involved fasting, or feasting, dancing and connecting with the limitless power of the ‘All That Is’. It was a tremendous time of shedding ordinary life roles.
Holidays, as I have just discovered, don’t always go as planned. But maybe, just maybe, therein lies their gift. We have a choice: we can resist the setbacks. Or we can relax and go with the flow… and like magic, we’re open to the real treats that today might bring.
Tags: Guidance, Intuition, intuitive healing, meditation, self-development, visualization, wellbeing
You asked me for a quick protective exercise that I often use and recommend. I have pleasure in enclosing it here.
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Imagine yourself standing inside a big golden egg of light – this is your own energy field, or aura. The golden egg is the border of your energy field. At the top of the egg is an opening. You can open and close this at your will, and it connects you to the All That Is.
Imagine that the surface of the golden egg is strong and protective. If any parts of it seems a bit thin or frayed or tattered, let more golden white light from the All That Is heal those places and firm them up.
Now imagine again that you are standing in the centre of your energy egg. You are holding a big, effective broom. The brush is so wide is comfortably reaches into every part of your energy field in one big sweeping motion. Start at the top, and sweep down one side. The brush sweeps a good half of the egg as it does so. Continue the sweeping movement below your feet and up the other side of the egg. The brush sweeps over that entire half of the egg as it does so.
Finish with the brush at the top. With a quick, firm, flicking movement, send any debris – anything that doesn’t belong in your energy field – out into the All That Is, which is fully capable of handling it. Repeat the entire sweeping movement once or twice if you choose, just to make sure that your energy field is totally clean and clear.
Then, imagine beautiful pure white light coming in from the All That Is. See or sense it filling your energy field completely. Enjoy the sensation.
Finally, close the opening at the top of the egg just slightly, knowing that you can open and close it at will.
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The whole exercise can be done in under a minute. It’s particularly helpful for those times when you feel that someone has hitched a ride, psychically speaking, in your energy field. It happens. Remember this: your space is your space. Boundaries matter. You get to choose who enters your space, and if they do so, it’s on your terms.
With love and happiness
Tags: affirmation, healing, inspiration, positive thinking, self-development, visualization, wellbeing
A few days ago I went back to my local pool after a long absence. As I glided through the water, reflections of blue sky danced over the surface. I could feel myself relaxing, letting the water support me. And I remembered the joy of swimming.
We know that water can be kind to the human body: whatever the level of fitness, water provides a small but significant resistance that increases the overall benefit.
Less talked about, it does something equally interesting to the psyche: it connects us an earlier, more aquatic stage of life: the womb… and even, more distantly, our evolutionary past.
When I am in water, I feel different. The hard angular surfaces of modern life give way to a fluid world in which I feel safe, held, and simply more inclined to go with the flow. There is something inherently fun about the experience, and I feel zingy and cleansed.
As I swam, I started an internal chant, and this is how it went:
“I am beautiful… I am one… I am beautiful”… I am one…”
Each phrase corresponded to a swimming stroke. When I reached the end of the pool and turned around, the chant had become: “I am beautiful… I am two… I am beautiful… I am two…”
With each new length, the number went up. I was counting lengths, and throwing in an affirmation too.
And then I realized I was actually imagining myself at the age of one, two, and so on. Not only that, I was feeling the dominant emotions of that age, in connection with beauty and self-worth. As I continued to swim up and down the pool, the happy self-belief of young childhood gave way to the huge, wobbly uncertainty of my teens, and a growing feeling of confidence in adulthood. As I remembered sad times, it felt as though the water was washing the pain away.
Effectively, I was healing each stage of my life’s journey with the help of water, and affirmations. My adult self was sending love and support back through the years to all my younger selves who were still there, it seemed to me, in the memories held within my body. The process felt deeply restorative and I recommend it to you.
Next time you’re in the pool, you might like to affirm “I am beautiful… I am one” and so on, all the way through your teens, twenties – all the way up to your present age. You can spread the exercise over more than one swim session, if you choose. But when you have swum a length for every year you’ve lived, you can start all over again with a new word. “I am strong”, and “I am well” both have great healing potential. What affirmation would you choose?
Tags: healing, innermost feelings, inspiration, life skills, positive thinking
Earlier this month I was lucky enough to tread the red carpet at the BAFTAs – the British version of the Oscars. I was there simply because my partner was invited. However much I like to think of myself as immune to star-spotting, I am not. It was huge fun to share a rain-soaked red carpet with George Clooney, Ben Affleck, Dame Helen Mirren and Marion Cottillard, among many others. It was fun when guests grabbed a spare BAFTA trophy and we posed for the camera. And sharing the photographs afterwards was all part of the pleasure.
A week later, I was sitting in my Wiltshire studio, facilitating a meditation group. We were focusing on the theme of forgiveness. After half an hour of silence, we swapped notes. A writer friend in the group, Claire, said something endearing. “I found it very hard to focus on forgiveness at the beginning of the meditation, because I just kept thinking how envious I was of Suzanne for going to the BAFTAs,” she confessed.
Everyone in the group laughed – it was a sweetly funny moment. But afterwards, it got me thinking.
The truth is, Claire and I are alike. Whenever I hear of someone’s good fortune, there is often some envy mixed up with delight. I am happy for them, of course. But there can also be a sense of being left out, like not receiving an invitation to a friend’s party.
Envy is said to be one of the Seven Deadly Sins; it’s an emotion we’re traditionally not supposed to feel. But we do feel it, so there must be some purpose to it. What purpose does envy serve?
After the meditation session, I decided to watch out for my next experience of envy, to see what I might learn. I didn’t have long to wait: it arrived with the morning post. Among the envelopes there was a programme for the upcoming Mind Body Spirit Festival in London. My eyes went straight to the workshops, and straight to the names of the facilitators. And then, I felt stirrings of envy.
The envy could only mean one thing: I would like to run a workshop at a large event like the Mind Body Spirit festival. But mixed up with the envy were stomach-churning feelings of inadequacy and fear. There was a mouse-like element to the fear that seemed to be saying in a firm yet squeaky voice: “It’s safer to stay at home.”
The wisdom of envy
I focused in on the envy again. And deep within its energy I found these words: “Remember who you are.” And then I realised that the spiritual purpose of envy is to help us to stay on our own unique path. That path does, for sure, take us out of our comfort zone. It may be a hard path, and the only way we can do it is one step at a time. I realised that envy was telling me to quit dreaming and start doing what was required – one step at a time.
It occurred to me that many of the speakers at the Mind Body Spirit Festival workshops have written books on their subject – some of my envy lay in that direction. I am indeed in the process of writing one, on the brand of intuitive meditation that I share with others – but progress is slow. And then I realised that I need to schedule regular, daily time to my project. It’s the only way I will complete it.
In a few weeks’ time I’m doing a talk on intuitive meditation in a local town. Someone has mentioned another great local group I might get in touch with. Each small step leads to the next. With the divine help of envy, I’m starting to follow my bliss.
Now it’s your turn. What do you, perhaps, feel envy about, and what might envy’s message be for you?
Tags: affirmation, Guidance, happiness, inspiration, Intuition, intuitive development, positive thinking, solstice, wellbeing
I typed out a list of positive, uplifting words, and printed several copies on card, then cut them up and popped them in the bag. During the Solstice, I invited many people, upwards of 80, to take a word out of the bag and keep it with them as guidance for the year ahead.
During the Solstice get-togethers I drew a total of three words for myself: ‘Thankful’, ‘Optimism’ and ‘Support’. I looked at them, felt their specialness, then put them down and forgot about them.
January came, with snows, then wind and rain. There were winter bugs in my household, which meant I didn’t get to the gym, or go walking, or swimming. I reduced my daily yoga… gradually, imperceptibly, I was putting my wellbeing on hold. This is never a good idea, I know. But still, it happened.
And then, just yesterday, I found my three words once more: ‘Thankful’, ‘Support’ and ‘Optimism’. I hugged them like old friends. How could I have forgotten them? The truth is, I need those words every day. Each word is a tiny, effective dose of wellbeing.
If you would like me to draw a word for you out of the bag, just ask, and I’ll be happy to send you your own little dose of wellbeing.
Tags: 2012, Guidance, inspiration, Intuition, positive thinking, Spirituality
“What kind of scary stories?” I asked, though I had a pretty good idea.
“Oh, that there’s going to be some kind of natural disaster. You know, the world coming to an end; the Apocalypse…I’ve been reading about it.”
“Okay,” I said. “I’m going to give you some good reasons why we should love December 2012.” And here they are…
1) December 21st 2012 is the shortest day of the year, and also the date when a long cycle in an ancient South American calendar system, known as the Mayan Calendar, comes to an end. It has been suggested that this date will bring calamity. But calendars don’t create or predict events. They simply mark the days. And in any case, a new Mayan cycle starts on December 22nd.
Borders are always significant, and this border between two vast periods of time creates a pause. Within that pause there is an opportunity for old, outmoded ways of thinking to vanish, and a new, more humane outlook to flourish. This can be good for all of us.
2) Alarmist predictions about this month can actually teach us how to tell the difference between our ungrounded fears – in this case, a fear of the unknown – and our intuition. Intuition literally means ‘in-tuition’ and it is a form of teaching. We all know that good teachers care for their students and help them to achieve their best. So true guidance, whether it’s within you, or from someone in the wider world, is reassuring and uplifting – always. Trust your guidance.
3) A date can have powerful symbolic meaning, and this can be used in good and helpful ways. So, for example, December 21st 2012 is acting as a powerful focus for the ever-growing holistic movement. This movement can be summed up as this: the realization that we are all one. Humanity is one, magnificent, glorious being who is just beginning to learn that the only person we’ve been fighting all this time is ourselves – and that when we are kind to others, we are kind to ourselves.
4) This month may truly turn out to be an Apocalypse, in a positive way. The word ‘apocalypse’ comes from ancient Greek, and originally meant ‘uncover, reveal’. It developed an additional meaning of ‘insight’ or ‘vision’. So perhaps we are living through an apocalypse; perhaps it has already started. But this is a good thing. Over the past 12 months we’ve had covert wrong-doings exposed in people who run countries, businesses, banks and charities. We are living in a more transparent time, and that is to be welcomed. We are also, finally, accepting our intuitive and visionary abilities, having learnt in the last century that science and logic can lead to inhumane actions on a planetary scale. We need our insight. We need our vision.
5) Each of us can use the potential energy of this time in excellent ways. You can focus during the whole of December, and especially around the time of the Winter Solstice on the 21st, on love and peace, feeling it in your own heart, towards yourself, your family, your community, your country, and this whole beautiful planet. While you do this, you will know that countless other people are doing the same, all over the world. What we think and feel does manifest in the outer world – and the positive energy we can generate together is beautiful. Be loving to yourself, and loving to the world.
That is the real meaning of this amazing time that we are living in.
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Tags: Guidance, happiness, healing, innermost feelings, inspiration, Intuition, meditation, nature, personal growth, Spirituality, visualization, wellbeing
Recently I listened to I Am Wishes Fulfilled Meditation by Wayne Dyer and James Twyman. In the intro, Wayne suggests that we silently repeat “I Am That I Am” while listening to James’ music. The musical tracks are without words. The music has already been released as The Moses Code Frequency Meditation by James Twyman. My favourite track is the Meditation with guitar music.
So I settled down to listen to the meditation, and this is what happened to me…
A vision of humanity
It felt to me as if I saw the origins of our race. I saw humanity as a single, unified being. I saw it being born somewhere warm and fertile, in the land we now call Africa, and moving, spreading outwards. I saw it spilling into Europe and Asia, and still spreading. I felt absolute love and compassion for the whole of this young humanity, and also for the individuals within it. I found that I could zoom in and focus on an individual: I saw a woman, high up on a hillside, sitting with her baby under a stony outcrop. Briefly, while I focused on them, I became the woman; I became the baby. I felt again a sense of love and compassion – absolute love. I became the stony outcrop sheltering them. I became the landscape, nourishing them.
And then, something shifted. I was with a group of people, dressed in animal skins, in a place between two rivers. I heard, “The waters are rising.” There was a sense of urgency and fear. And then I saw sheets of water and large sections of land became sea.
Another shift, and this time I saw a man standing in front of me. He wore the long black robes of a priest. It was obvious that he was not my friend. He stood, very straight and tall in front of me. He was going to kill me. He projected a belief that he was right, and therefore I was wrong – so wrong, that I must be destroyed. There was a sense of cold logic about him, a well-ordered superiority. And then I saw a tide of blood covering Europe and beyond, reaching every continent. The blood was of persecution and separation. I had a profound sense of sadness and resignation. This was the way things were.
Lessons in peace
There was another, most welcome shift, to a place of stillness and rest. And deep inside me, a very quiet voice said, “You are my daughter.” I felt profoundly loved, accepted and safe, in a way that makes me feel tearful as I write now.
While I was in that quiet, restful state, I became aware that I was holding a small office guillotine – the sort that you cut paper with. In the circumstances, it reminded me of the guillotines of the French Revolution and other state-sanctioned killings. I was being told that the guillotine – the killing sort – is a logical conclusion of separation. I understood that all we have ever been learning is love, and unity.
The meaning of love and unity is this: never harm others in the name of ‘Right’. And it is this: we are all Love, incarnate.
This vision that I experienced was a lengthy one, lasting several hours, long after the music ended. I was experiencing it while going about my day, as if I were living two lives – or indeed many lives – all at the same time. I had a sense that things might get worse while they get better – but that they don’t need to. I understood that if we truly are all one, a collective whole, then what you or I think and feel – what we hold inside us – will become manifest. There is no enemy. There is no victim. We are all one.
After the vision, these words lingered, which I share with you now:
May peace be in your heart, and in the gardens of your soul.
Tags: Guidance, happiness, healing, innermost feelings, inspiration, Intuition, meditation, nature, Spirituality, visualization, wellbeing
In our distant nomadic past, home was where we settled for the night: it was shelter, a place we lay down – a place of rest. Recently, on the West Coast of Scotland, I came across a perfect example of home at its simplest. This stone outcrop at Sand provided shelter for our ancestors nearly 10,000 years ago. It was their bedroom, and also their kitchen: there is evidence that they collected limpets from the sea shore and boiled them up in water before eating them.
My daughter led me up and onto the roof of the shelter. “There’s a place I’ve got to show you,” she said. “You’re going to love it; it’s really special.” And she was right. On the heather-clad roof there were several broad stones: slabs of natural paving. One, in particular, was a perfect meditation seat. It was easy to sit there, gaze out to sea and simply let your thoughts drift into that in-between place – the other realm.
When I did so, I found myself talking to the inhabitants of that time. We weren’t using words, exactly, but we were communicating. To my surprise, I found they were admiring my build: the fact that compared with them I looked immensely well fed. I was aware of their lightness and slimness and superb fitness, and found myself wishing that I exercised more.
They were surprised at my lack of self-acceptance on this matter. They reminded me of the goodness of Mother Earth, or the Mother as they called her. She provided what we needed, and it made no sense to disparage her gifts. Abundance was a blessing. Each of us was a creation of the Mother. Each of us was divine. How could we criticise ourselves in that context? Criticism was utterly meaningless.
I actually had the sense they were laughing at me, as if I were a child who didn’t quite understand. And yet there was also respect. It was as if they saw wisdom in me, as I saw wisdom in them. And the wisdom wasn’t individual wisdom; it was collective. We all shared knowledge… and this knowledge was infinite awareness.
And then I understood the true meaning of home. It is unconditional love, and it is acceptance. When you are at home – truly at home – you are loved, you are accepted. During the many times we find ourselves on our own, we can still feel unconditional love and acceptance towards ourselves. And when we are with others – however distant in terms of culture, or the passage of time – we can feel that exact same connection. As I did on that rock.
Down below, a car horn was sounding. I was being summoned back to the 21st Century. I clambered down the heather slopes, sea breeze in my hair, aware that the bliss I was feeling is our natural birthright.
It’s your birthright; it truly is.
Tags: affirmation, flowers, Guidance, inspiration, meditation, nature, Spirituality, wellbeing
Have a magical day.
Tags: flowers, Guidance, half an hour, happiness, inspiration, Intuition, meditation, positive thinking, visualization, wellbeing
This week has been all about happiness: pure happiness. My meditation groups have been focusing on the word – they have breathed in “I am”, and breathed out “happiness”. Then, just this morning, I recorded a ‘Happiness’ guided meditation, which I will send out to people when they book a place on my September Intuitive Development course.
One of my favourite intuitive insights from a week of happiness is this: the opposite of happiness is control.
“Surely the opposite of happiness is unhappiness?” pointed out one guy in a group session.
That’s true, of course. However, consider the happiness levels of a young child. They are not especially in control of their lives. But in any given moment, a child can find happiness in playing with absolutely anything that comes his or her way, whether it be a twig, some earth, or a bowl of water (or even better, all three together).
Consider, in contrast, the last time you organised a fun event, like a party. Did you freely enjoy it, or did you spend a portion of your time worrying about everything that might go wrong?
When we try to control how things will turn out, that’s where unhappiness lies. In contrast, when we open up to life and accept surprises along the way, that’s when we experience happiness.
So after a week of focusing on happiness, have my happiness levels risen? Definitely, by around 100%. There’s been less rushing, and more enjoying the moment. If you haven’t done this already, I warmly recommend it: sit somewhere quietly for 20 minutes or half an hour. Breathe in “I am”, and breathe out “happiness”. And just see where the word takes you.